The next time I hear someone say “I was bad” in reference to their diet, I may have to shoot them! I meet fantastic people all the time. People who are successful in business, sports, academics — you name it. I could live handsomely off the taxes some of these people pay!! But do they consider themselves successful? Are they happy with their lives? Generally speaking, yes-but there is one area in which they consider themselves to be failures — and they would trade their success any day to attain this one goal: to lose weight.
At work last week, one of my clients came into my office looking at the floor, as if she was ashamed. She was ashamed. We said hello, and then I asked if she was feeling alright. Slowly she looked up at me and said, “I was bad.” I looked at her and heard myself ask, “Did you rob a bank?” “No,” she replied. “Did you shoot someone?” Again: “No.” So I asked her what possibly could have happened to make her so upset, and she said, “I ate three pieces of birthday cake at my daughter’s party.”
Why is it that people place judgment on themselves based on their eating behaviors? Someone is a “good” or “bad” person according what they’ve eaten? Doesn’t it sound crazy? Don’t you think someone is good or bad based on, well, whether they’ve robbed a bank? Abused their child? Voted for the other candidate?
Yet we measure our worth based on our eating behaviors. Let’s stop this craziness, and put our relationship with food into perspective. It is just one of the many relationships we have in our lives. Relationships wax and wane-we’re not always happy with how the relationship is going, but the healthy ones last.
Let’s save the judgment of being “bad” for when we really do shoot someone.
Becoming “at peace with food” is a journey that involves developing a new relationship with food. Instead of being marked by frustration and disappointment, by fear and competition between you and the food you eat, food will take its place as one of the many activities in your life, along with family, friends, working and being active. And, like these other activities, it should be pleasurable.
To stop “living in conflict” with food, you need to understand more about yourself and why you have the relationship you do with food. As with most relationships, your relationship with food was developed over time, and for that reason, will take time to change.
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